This chap is so inspiring- it reminds me to feed my mind
I think it’s good to look at what we can improve in the world, and in human nature
But we also desperately need, in this period in history, to focus on what is good, what works, what we have achieved.
In that way, we can feel more empowered about the changes we want to make to make the world a safer and happier place for all!
I love reading the Friendship Book
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/1693833.The_Friendship_Book_2007 as it’s got plenty of gentle wisdom
Here’s a poem from it:
Whatever our hands touch-
We leave fingerprints!
On walls, on furniture
On doorknobs, dishes, books
As we touch we leave our identity
Oh, please, wherever I go today,
Help me leave heartprints!
Of understanding and love
Heartprints of kindness and genuine concern
Hi, this is a great post:
How has your religious community historically seen mental illness? – And how does your faith, today, shape the way you see mental illness?
I am part of 12 step groups that are open-minded towards mental health issues
I also attend Dual Recovery Anonymous, for sufferers of mental health and addiction
Nowadays, I see my faith as a key part of my recovery and keeping well, mentally and emotionally
I’ve been considering gratitude these last few days.
Reading my favourite author Stephanie Dowrick’s book, Everyday Kindness, I was inspired to set myself a ratio of 5:1 in many areas of my inner life.
– To aim for five positive thoughts about myself for every one thought which is self-critical
-To aim for five positive thoughts about my friends, family, work colleagues and strangers for every one negative criticism I make about them
-To compensate for each self-defeating worry about my life, or the state of the world, with five positive thoughts about what is right in my world, and in the world at large
This reminds me of the saying I read this week: It takes no more time to look at the good in the world as it takes to looks at the bad!
I want to encourage you all that recovery is possible
But I am so glad I did not give up. I often felt that I could not keep going.
But a hopeful thought kept me going: If I keep making progress like I am, one day my life will be quite different to what it is today.
Some days, months or years I’ve felt I am hardly progressing, but the reality is that slow change has led to more change.
So keep going, even if there seems to be little hope- the hope increases as things get better
I have learnt a lot over the last few days.
I was really struggling last week- I had been really getting into politics. Pretty quickly, I felt very down. And totally unwilling to talk to people at work. And very angry with my family.
Luckily, I hit a ‘rock bottom’ with it all Friday lunchtime. I realised I needed to get back to a better balance, and read some Stephanie Dowrick. I had tried to read her the day before, but had not enjoyed it at all.
On Friday, it was different. And immediately, I felt better for deciding to follow Stephanie’s teachings. It makes a world of difference for me
I then read something fantastic from her book ‘Everyday Kindness’. It was about successful relationships, how they need a minumum of 5 positive comments for every critical comment. Very successful relationships have a ratio of 20:1 positive:negative comments.
This really made me think- could I aim for a 5:1 ratio for praising myself and others, compared to my criticisms.
Stephanie reminded me this is crucial to aim for, for any relationship to work. I thought, well, I need a good relationship with myself, my colleagues, my family, my friends, and most importantly with life.
It has made me realise that I automatically focus on what is wrong. This 5:1 ratio really got me thinking. That I can aim for 5 positive/loving thoughts to compensate for each negative/depressing thought.
Well, I’m not there yet, at 5:1, but even having that ratio in mind is helping me to remember to have positive thoughts, and not just let my mind go wherever it wants to go, which by default seems to be towards the negative and fear-based.
Thanks for listening